High Maintenance Girlfriends
May 4th, 2006
i’ve always known that i’m a high-maintenance girlfriend.
not high maintenance like the moneysucker type, or high maintenance like the jealous-girlfriend type, but high maintenance like .. the hard-to-please type.
wait that came out wrong; i’m not really hard to please at all! okay, maybe it’s more like, you-must-spoil-me-or-we’re-SO-splitting-up.
yeah!!! that’s exactly it!!!
… that’s not really a bad kind of high maintenance, is it? i mean the worst i’ve ever done was pout and throw tantrums until my boyfriend took leave from work to spend the day eating icecream and watching DVDs with me. so his stupid boss didnt like it. so what. romantic cuddly days like that are important, especially when you and your significant other havent been spending alone time together a lot!
actually, i bet my exes will have a lot of Su Ann Is High Maintenance stories to tell. but i dont understand why everytime i ask them -
“hey. do you think i’m high maintenance?”
they say -
“no laaa, you high maintenance meh?”
“how about all the times i make you get out of bed in the dead of night to go eat porridge?”
“that’s not high maintenance ..”
“what about when i made you skip work to spend time with me!”
“i wanted to do it anyway..”
“what about when i shoved your head under the covers and then farted and then demanded you stay there for a whole minute or else i’d never love you again?!”
“that was a bit horrible but ..”
“am i high maintenance?!?!?!”
“no laaaa. cute wat, your quirky little demands. you know i love you so much.”
and thennnnnnnn right, when the relationship is over, this is what happens!!!!!
“OMG you were so damn demanding man … (insert name of new gf) is like an angel compared to you!”
@#%#(*%&*#&%(*#% i hate exboyfriends. what happened to demands being cute, huh? huh?!?!
today i met someone for lunch and he was telling me how his girlfriend is kinda possessive - with slight privacy-invading tendencies like checking his mail and not allowing him out with girls and stuff like that. i was just so appalled. i mean it’s one thing if he doesnt mind, but he DOES mind, and if that’s the case, how can the relationship be healthy?
so i was just sitting down and wondering to myself, which is worse, the kind of demanding that i am, or the kind of demanding that my friend’s gf is? mine may seem kinda harmless on the surface, and the boyfriend doesnt mind, but in the end it all just boils down to me wanting to be spoilt a lot by the bf. Friend’s GF on the other hand, does that because she cares a lot and cant bear the thought of losing her boyfriend. so doesnt that make her demands .. well, kinda pardonable?
there’s this other high maintenance gf that i know, she’s a good friend of mine, and VERY possessive of her boyfriend - to the extent that the reason we’re good friends now is because she added me on MSN one day asking me why the hell i stuck my tongue out at her boyfriend in school. hahaha she’s so cute. but anyway, she makes him do stuff like write ‘agreements’ about how he promises to never contact or meet specific girls ever again, and then she posts it online for everyone to see so that he keeps to his promise. and i’m like. wow. that is the high maintenance to beat all high maintenance!
okay my rambling is getting a bit off. this post should have been better constructed but a craft project calls my name, so i’m going to go sniff some UHU glue now.
anyway : bottom line. or bottom question, whatever. what is high maintenance to you?
(p/s : the phrase ‘high maintenance’ appeared 15 times in this post)
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1. ArtificiallyVerbose | May 4th, 2006 at 4:09 am
high or low maintainance it’s down to whether you’re happy. not all low maintainance relationships work either.
2. cK | May 4th, 2006 at 5:18 am
I would really like my future gf to be at least a little bit demanding. a yes-sire gf will bore the hell out of me. of coz, level of maintainance must remain in the threshold. ya ya i know i’m expecting too much…
3. kristof | May 4th, 2006 at 5:27 am
It is not neccesarily and linearly bad and limiting to have a high maintenance. There are exceptions in which a guy enjoys ‘maintaining’. So when it comes to maintenance, magnitude doesnt play much of a role. Its mostly mix and match.
4. Alex | May 4th, 2006 at 8:50 am
know what a gal can do to ur bf…
some guys are (jin yan) who love to be torture, but not for long tou. after a while they will feel bored, bcos u use the same trick to get attention. and u need to keep on inventing new tricks to give them suprise and feel that you are still fresh and bok bok chui.
5. housefly | May 4th, 2006 at 9:49 am
That is demanding not high maintainance. Be careful that your demands are not jelousy or insecurity in disguise. A guy will put up with the demands for a short time and in the end, the relation suffers.
6. Jay | May 4th, 2006 at 10:43 am
Good topic for the podcast! Makes a note of it.
7. crazymedicstudent | May 4th, 2006 at 11:42 am
i’m attracted to this post, mayb its that it totally applies to us guys…(btw,1st time commenting on a non-pic oriented post!!!hola!!!)
quote:
actually, i bet my exes will have a lot of Su Ann Is High Maintenance stories to tell. but i dont understand why everytime i ask them -
“hey. do you think i’m high maintenance?”
they say -
“no laaa, you high maintenance meh?”
“how about all the times i make you get out of bed in the dead of night to go eat porridge?”
“that’s not high maintenance ..”
“what about when i made you skip work to spend time with me!”
“i wanted to do it anyway..”
“what about when i shoved your head under the covers and then farted and then demanded you stay there for a whole minute or else i’d never love you again?!”
“that was a bit horrible but ..”
“am i high maintenance?!?!?!”
“no laaaa. cute wat, your quirky little demands. you know i love you so much.”
and thennnnnnnn right, when the relationship is over, this is what happens!!!!!
“OMG you were so damn demanding man … (insert name of new gf) is like an angel compared to you!”
@#%#(*%&*#&%(*#% i hate exboyfriends. what happened to demands being cute, huh? huh?!?!
i hate wussies!!! if u dun like say dun like, like say like, if high maintenance den say la!!! i wud never do tat, i mean lying tru my teeth like that. its jus too wussy… i wud comply oni when i think i shud, not coz i’m afraid of breaking up coz if so, it oni goes to show how fragile our relationship is, n how insecured we both r. i noe how some gals r damn demanding, n u have to play along, but e gals have to realise that u need to b pampered too…will blog about this soon…
8. crazymedicstudent | May 4th, 2006 at 11:44 am
oh oh, i din notice e quote soooo long….shit…..sori man, delete the whole comment if u 1……the quotes too freaking long…..
9. Susan | May 4th, 2006 at 12:55 pm
hahaha.. cute man the things u make ur bfs do =p
10. reallybites | May 4th, 2006 at 1:08 pm
high maintenance : moneysucker lo.must go to expensive dining place allllllll the time etc etc.
hmm upper medium works good.too low also no syiok la.
11. Marianne | May 4th, 2006 at 1:11 pm
High maintenance is given to a girl when a guy can’t keep up with her! lol
Every girl has certain expectations and certain criterias.. if a guy fails to meet that.. she seems to be known as high maintenance.
Demanding and high maintenance are totally different.
I am not high maintenance. I am picky so they have no chance to call me high maintenance. LOL
12. pinkpau | May 4th, 2006 at 2:02 pm
artificially : you’re right :)
cK : HAHA that’s what my exbfs say!!! that their new gfs are boring compared to demanding me. see, high maintenance is good after all ..!
kristof : i totally agree with you. i think most guys just enjoy spoiling their gfs
alex : but a relationship cant be just about thinking up new ‘tricks’ to keep the boy..! it’s so .. contrived
housefly : my dear anonymous housefly, if you knew me, you’d know i’m a high maintenance girlfriend. cos not only am i demanding, i’m also complicated :) and like mentioned earlier, i’m not a jealous girlfriend. neither have i been insecure in any relationship. and i’ve been a fortunate girl, cos my boyfriends so far have loved me a lot despite my high maintenance.
jay : ooh! i’ve contributed to the podcast!! :D
crazymedic : oh haha take that back, my boyfriends are not wusses. they just love me enough to accomodate me, that’s all. when i make silly little demands like those, they dont mind at all, and humour me to the very end.
susan : every girl should do stuff like that to her bf .. haha
reallybites : only moneysucking?
marianne : crap that means i am both. omg. i’m going to die unmarried!!
13. cK | May 4th, 2006 at 2:46 pm
yup! demanding gf can spice up my boring life abit, especially now.
As for possesive gf….cannot man…experienced b4….could barely breath…
14. crazymedicstudent | May 4th, 2006 at 3:58 pm
lol, dun get me wrong now, they r oni wussies if they say yes n then talk bad at the back, like wat u jus said, doing all e things they dun like doing and den when u guys break up, makes stupid remarks about it… accomdating is good, its e essence of a good relationship.wussies r not.
15. Will | May 4th, 2006 at 4:00 pm
I think every bf would like the best for his gf, but has his constraints. Not everyone is retired and rolling in money you know. Little requests for favours is acceptable, but not “Buy me that Prada bag or it’s over!” demands.
I think the less she demands, the more she gets. At least in my case.
16. reallybites | May 4th, 2006 at 4:46 pm
okay i was going to blog about this,but heck,i’ll post here insted haha
the other day a friend was comparing high maintenance and low maintenance girls with cars….analogy la..
high = bmw (the old 3 series or smth)
low = proton
then he said
bmw = quality wise,not that good (dunno why la,his break down often kua =p) and its not produced anymoreee
proton = reliable.then he said proton’s spare parts are not cheap also bla bla.
and i dunno whats the outcome of this pointless convo haha.
but a little demanding is good.so are arguments.i loveeeee arguinggggg over pointless/little things just for the fun of it.and no matter what,even though i know im wrong,i must win!! i will continue arguing till he gives up haha.
17. Ginny | May 4th, 2006 at 5:41 pm
huahuahuahahua
18. Liz | May 4th, 2006 at 7:08 pm
I don’t think I’m high maintenance at all, but in a bad way, cause most of my past relationships ended with the other party accusing me of not caring enough and not treating it seriously. =.=
So I guess being high maintenance may not actually be a bad thing! Unless it gets to the point of seeming psychotic ..
19. tze | May 4th, 2006 at 8:22 pm
haha before reading your post i just did a ‘are you high maintenance quiz’ on blogthings. and i got ‘YOU ARE HIGH MAINTENANCE’. some shit about wanting to be treated like a princess la, too used to the good things in life la, fendi bags etc. go take that quiz also la.
btw i don’t think i’m all that high maintenance. to my dad maybe la. but not to my boyfriends. *wink
20. GAMBs | May 4th, 2006 at 10:16 pm
High maintenance is only applied on material demand n expenditure for me.. any other is not, including waking up middle of the night and go for poridge..
21. pinkpau | May 4th, 2006 at 11:12 pm
cK : *pat pat* i know how you feel .. i’m on the recieving end of possessive girlfriends too :(
crazymedicstudent : oh no worries :) i know they dont mean it, haha
will : less she demands, more she gets… i like that :)
reallybites : oh man hahaha your friends are really car-crazy! compare women to cars in that way also can. ya men should let us win the arguments all the time .. :D
ginny : huehueheuhee
liz : WOW you’re such a rarity! everywhere i look i see high maintenance girls wan. wow. can i date you?!
tze : you?? not high maintenance??? dont bluff me la!
gambs : cool!! lets you and i date. hahaha i get these mad porridge cravings at 3 in the morning wan.
22. Bryan | May 4th, 2006 at 11:57 pm
High or low maintenance very subjective wan. I’m sure different kind of people will give you different answers.
Take for instance, a millionaire will not think going to Victoria Station for every dinner as high maintenance, but average employee will. Like in your case, I guess a busy CEO might not entertain you if you ask him to purposely take one day leave just to have ice cream and watch DVD at home. If he is free almost 24/7, taking one day leave because of you is low maintenance for him.
Well, I think whether high or low maintenance is depending on the other party actually, whether he/she can afford to “pay” for the maintenance. :)
23. bulat | May 5th, 2006 at 7:54 pm
erm..hmm..are guys high maintenance too?~_~
24. secretbear | May 5th, 2006 at 8:42 pm
I think that we, the girls have all the right to be as high maintenance as we wish to be =D
Well, they did say they love us XD
25. Calypso | May 10th, 2006 at 9:49 am
Very. As described and will always be.
26. junglecat | May 14th, 2006 at 9:12 am
hehehe…. that’s not high-maintenance to me la…. hmm…. a trite demandin to d guy maybe (esp d porridge bit…. since zzz is veri important to me n nthin wud wake me up at 3.00 am wun!) n extremely cute definitely, but i always thot high-maintenance had sthin to do with being ‘expensive’ to maintain…. ie only wantin to eat in expensive restaurants, buy expensive stuff, etc…. ;p
bulat asked an interestin ques…. r guys high maintenance…. demandin maybe but definitely not high-maintenance as in ‘expensive’, i dun think…. i havent encountered any like that even tho my bro has pretty expensive tastes wun…. hehehe…. ;p
27. hanna | June 19th, 2006 at 1:27 am
I think high-maintenance is more money-ish than behaviour-ish, never realise it was applied to all these other quirks as well :P
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