Anything That I Dont Know
July 24th, 2006
someone once said to me that the best part of a relationship is the part before the couple officially gets together. that’s when both individuals know that they have feelings for the other person, but are just slightly unsure about how the person feels. every little touch means a lot, every date is a bundle of nerves and there’s this happy, glowy feeling when you get a text from the other person out of the blue.
but the best part of a relationship, for me, are the moments when you learn new things about your partner. i’ve come to realize how much i love cuddling on the couch, and whispering to him all sorts of questions .. like, how did you get this scar? and how old were you when you first had sex? and what are you most afraid of? .. and it’s just so much fun to hear all the answers .. i got this scar while playing ice hockey, i was 19, i’m afraid of being alone.
quiet nights when you’re both just lying in bed and he’s unraveling stories about his life before you came into it, lazy afternoons when he’s showing you pictures from his childhood, long car rides when he’s telling you all about his exgirlfriends - these are the best moments in a relationship. so honest and open and unbarred. and when you’re in a relationship where for whatever weird reason you feel that you cant entirely let yourself go, it is times like this that are important - you can forget about all those consequences, and just immerse yourself in the moment and the knowledge.
when i’m in love with someone, i want to know all the little things about him .. the quirks, the history, the side of him that he shows to noone else. i want those honest, naked moments. and if i cant have such moments with him.. if he cant share his life with me, wont open up to me .. i wouldnt be able to accept it at all. i cant love you if i dont know you.
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hey, tell me something about you, anything that i dont know…
“i’m really jealous of my brother”
“i’ve always wanted to be a fighter pilot”
“i loved you from the moment i opened that door and saw you”
“i sleep with a little pink pillow at night”
“batman is my hero”
“i find self portraits the hardest thing”
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1. Kevin | July 24th, 2006 at 6:28 am
Hahaha hey me too, I’ve always wanted to be a fighter pilot, or be in the SWAT team. At least I’m coming close to builiding a plane haha, building a fighter plane has always been my dream too.
Ehh don’t la tell the whole world this particular guy lost his virginity at 19 hahaha, I know you lost yours at 13 but no need to lansi one.
But it’s true, I like girls who are totally open too, be able to talk about anything at all and not feeling insecure if I start talking bout my ex gf or scared I’ll be mad if she tells me story of her past, it’s nice, special talkss. Okla when are you gonna tell me everything bout u? haha
2. Sv | July 24th, 2006 at 6:44 am
so true. real nice post!!!
3. prawn | July 24th, 2006 at 6:46 am
Yeh, its great to open up. A girl who is open and can accept guys talking abt anything from their ex’s to their past sexual relationship is definitely a keeper =)
4. Gin | July 24th, 2006 at 8:12 am
totally unrelated to ure post..but just to tell u..that itialian restaurant behind in bukit segar..is the same 1 as the 1 in taman desa paradiso..the 1 near 2046.. the food is OK la.. not that good but not bad also la.. but a bit expensive for that standard =3..
5. Confused neanderthal male | July 24th, 2006 at 8:44 am
“long car rides when he’s telling you all about his exgirlfriends - these are the best moments in a relationship”
HUH? Wow, really?
6. Jon | July 24th, 2006 at 8:55 am
Wow… suddenly I’m hearing “Dirty Little Secret” by the All-American Rejects blasting through my mind waves as I read your post.
I’ll keep you my dirty little secret…
Dirty little secret…
Don’t tell anyone or you’ll be just another regret…
Just another regret, hope that you can keep it..
My dirty little secret…
Who has to know ^_^ (your girlfriend lar)
7. Kyels | July 24th, 2006 at 10:08 am
I do agree with you … It’s great to open up and be honest with each other. I do not see a point if both partners are hiding their histories behind their backs.
If you can be in love with each other, I am sure that one should be able to accept his or her partner and the past that they had had. I mean even if you’d like to erase your past; you cannot because things that had happened, happened.
Acceptance is one thing in a relationship. If you cannot accept; then there is no meaning of being in a relationship after all.
(:
8. chongsw | July 24th, 2006 at 10:38 am
It takes 2 to tango. It takes 2 to clap.
9. pinkpau | July 24th, 2006 at 12:51 pm
kevin : why cant you be both a fighter plane builder and a fighter pilot?? what is wichita teaching u?! hehe i didnt say his name alsoooooo. at least i didnt blog about all of YOUR sex stories k! and i’ll tell you everything about me the next time you buy me ice cream.. hehe
Sv : hehe thanks
prawn : arent most girls like that? like to hear about these stories, i mean
gin : which, u mean venezia or the other one?
confused neanderthal male : not just the exgf thing, but also the other moments before that part of the sentence :) but what i meant was the best moments in a relationship are when both parties can talk about anything and everything and just be completely open with each other
jon : i love that song .. haha i love all american rejects!
kyels : totally agree with the hiding histories thing. and yesss acceptance. such a pain in the ass sometimes..
chongsw : agreed :) tho not easy sometimes.
10. meanoldman | July 24th, 2006 at 1:25 pm
exposes are delicious coz the vulnerability blurs the line between pain and pleasure. like how u hate being tickled but laugh when u are.
11. Ginny | July 24th, 2006 at 2:04 pm
the other 1 la “=_=.. u asked me test wad.. haha
12. prawn | July 24th, 2006 at 2:43 pm
Hehe, not all girls. Some do like to hear these type of stories and some just don’t. Or it maybe just the girls I know =) But yeah, maybe to a certain extent. If the guy is going on and on and on abt his ex, it may just turn off to some. Same goes for the guy’s sex life =)
13. steph | July 24th, 2006 at 6:07 pm
awesome post. incredibly well written i must say.
i love the times when you’re meant to meet up, but its pouring cats and dogs outside, yet he makes the effort to come meet you and you have no choice but to huddle close to one another as he slings a protective arm round your shoulders and makes as if you’re the most precious commodity on earth.
keep up the great writting. =P
14. Adrian C | July 24th, 2006 at 10:18 pm
good, honest and open sharings are the foundations of a strong and lasting relationship. i hope i get to enjoy that again one day :).
15. pinkpau | July 25th, 2006 at 2:43 am
meanoldman : i like that :) it’s very true.
ginny : hehe ok thanks :D
prawn : yea i know some people who dont like their partners to mention their exes at all .. aiyo i wonder why. so in denial liddat.
steph : aww that’s so romantic!! :D and thanks, that’s high praise :)
adrian c : you will .. :)
16. floweryme | July 25th, 2006 at 9:52 am
did you get to see the little pink pillow? if you did not… i can show you hahahah =p now i’m no longer “anonymous” to you.
17. pinkpau | July 25th, 2006 at 1:09 pm
floweryme : hahaha yes now you are no longer anonymous. and yes i’ve seen it :)
18. Kyels | July 25th, 2006 at 4:40 pm
Acceptance is definitely pain the ass but somehow we gotta accept them for who they are in they gotta accept us too … It works both ways.
(:
19. jirwan | July 26th, 2006 at 9:17 pm
wow thats a really nice post but 1 thing u can get a scar while playing ice hockey wow ive been playing for yrs never got 1 “YET” hahahah
20. sc | March 1st, 2007 at 9:02 pm
hi
very true, its nice to know the person whom you like in and out.
its good if he is honest and out spoken,
its nice to keep listening to him in and out!
nothing to be possessive about as far as he is frank!
after its part of the game!
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