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• 1. Qiken  |  November 15th, 2008 at 5:06 am

  it's tiring to have to watch out for so many different kinds of people. it is much easier to just be yourself and take everything as part of how life is.

• 2. Kevin Chan  |  November 15th, 2008 at 5:26 am

  Ooooh! Scary Pinkpau! Eeeek! :P

• 3. amy  |  November 15th, 2008 at 5:47 am

  so true!

• 4. Yau  |  November 15th, 2008 at 6:33 am

  you make me sad.

• 5. YM  |  November 15th, 2008 at 7:19 am

  I say send them to a game of Mah Jong and all colors revealed. :P

  Well, it's kinda true that playing all smiles can be a fun observatory role, everyone reveals everything to your “3rd eye”.

  And I'd say people with all smiles are the most conceitful people of all sorts. Cos they do not allow their true emotions to be seen. Lol!

• 6. alvin  |  November 15th, 2008 at 7:50 am

  how can I afford to let my guard down? despite the falso bimbo-ness, she knows about dynamic IP and CSS margin/padding and these attributes alone threaten the very alpha ego nature in me.

  one day I will be of no use to her anymore and I'm already starting to train my dog to cry me a thousand rivers.

• 7. Rubeca  |  November 15th, 2008 at 10:13 am

  Thtz life hun……there are lotsa fishies, sharks, sting-rays, manta-rays……life's like tht….. thtz y sometimes u gotta taste the sour to learn bout the sweet and to taste the sweet to identify the “sours”. LIfe aint fair but hey, it'll only make u stronger :D

• 8. lishun  |  November 15th, 2008 at 10:22 am

  i'm the direct opposite of you. i don't let anyone even come close to taking advantage of me. however, that explains my judgmental character…and that's not a very good thing!

  you're like…the female version of the godfather. ooh.

• 9. Anon.  |  November 15th, 2008 at 11:26 am

  Dunno. I find that if you act always happy, smiley, young and naive, often, people don't share their personal thoughts/emotions/secrets with you because they think you are too naive to understand, and so, don't take you seriously.

• 10. choco  |  November 15th, 2008 at 12:00 pm

  that is..amazingly true. many times, i have exploited by 'friends' being good to me when they need me and dumping me when their work is done. I don't say anything but i know better, yes?

• 11. MIchelle  |  November 15th, 2008 at 2:41 pm

  I know perfectly what you're trying to convey, Pau. Sometimes, you act all nice and everything but deep inside, only you know what you are, who you really are and what you are made of. I've been through this so many times.

  Sounds like Adam Smith!!!

  And someone told me that my ENGLISH IS ATROCIOUS. :(

• 12. sheon  |  November 15th, 2008 at 2:51 pm

  avoiding is not necessary, manipulate the situation and with some diplomacy… and he/she can be just like any acquaintance. could be useful sometimes. heheheeh

• 13. may  |  November 15th, 2008 at 2:51 pm

  That;s why I always tell myself that I am just being polite; not acting nice to gain whatsoever from these people.bleh!

• 14. Riyo  |  November 15th, 2008 at 7:56 pm

  very nice. i agree with you 100%!!!!!!

• 15. Waifon  |  November 15th, 2008 at 8:30 pm

  I think I know where you're going with this post. sigh, same loser mongering for attention. Anonymous attention wtf.

• 16. Patricia  |  November 15th, 2008 at 9:25 pm

  so true. to think i wrote so much in my dairy when u could do it in a few lines. :)

• 17. Jenny  |  November 16th, 2008 at 12:04 am

  I guess they're not intimidated by you so they feel free to be asses… Got that quite a few times at work. I have never downplayed my colleagues abilities or belittled them at all, whether in front of a more senior colleague, my boss or whatever, or even if we're alone and there's no one around to hear. I'm so fed up. Maybe I should?

  But it's true. Helps you see who the true bitches are. Hate them. You might get the same thing going on when you enter the corporate jungle too. *hugs* Know you have my support.

• 18. theuptownlife  |  November 16th, 2008 at 2:12 am

  i totally agree with you. unfortunately, sometimes those people you want to avoid are your network, and this does not mean “to be fake”, very fine line though.

• 19. ams  |  November 16th, 2008 at 2:16 am

  glad to know that i'm not the only one getting shit for friends… just avoid them totally like you said. it gives you more room to experience positive feelings

• 20. Gin  |  November 16th, 2008 at 7:26 am

  HAHAHA. alvins comment very cute. hahahha

• 21. Tim  |  November 16th, 2008 at 8:32 am

  Haha Alvin wins!

• 22. Bunbread  |  November 16th, 2008 at 10:58 am

  YEAH! I TOTALLY AGREE ON THIS.
  And since I make lame jokes when I'm bored and always look happy, everyone thinks I'm dumb and naive.
  T.T

• 23. pinkpau  |  November 16th, 2008 at 4:36 pm

  qiken : i know :) believe me, i know. but some things you just have to amputate if you want to be happy. tiring is if you kept people like that in your life.

  kevin : where got scary?!

  amy : :)

  yau : why :( i'm still waiting for your email..

  YM : haha mahjong?!?! why?! eh my mother very scary wan when she plays mahjong. damn serious. ah i dont know about smiley ppl being dangerous.. and do you mean deceitful or conceitful?

  alvin : omg alvin she sounds like a total game player. SO COOL. she sounds hot. dont cry puppy. you gotta lurveeeee her

  rubeca : manta rays hahaha. yea i agree with you :)

  lishun : see i'm like that also… i hate it when people take advantage of me. though sometimes it's very hard to draw the line because i totally allow my closest and close friends to take whatever they want from me. so sometimes the occasional act of betrayal happens.. :) and then i get jaded. and then i write posts like this one. haha.

  anon : eh. haha.

  choco : some relationships can be like that. so if you think you shouldnt be emotionally attached to them, then you can look at the rship as a purely business one. which i cant do…

  michelle : ahh screw that person. how harsh of him or her to say that.

  sheon : i dunno la i dun really like the idea of businesslike friendships. i know it's going to be necessary when i start work and all that.. but for now i dont want to think of my friends as a channel to get something that i want, nor do i want them to think the same way of me. i guess your advice is right, but in my situations, most of them dont require any kind of action from me, cos they already did what they wanted to do. in those situations all that's left for me to decide is.. do i still want to be friends with this person?

  may : if it's really the truth, you dont have to keep convincing yourself of that, right!

  riyo : thank u :)

  waifon : haha actually… no, we're not talking about the same things! though i know what you're talking abt

  patricia : ahh diaries are where we're supposed to pour out loads and loads, yes? my own diaries are just lots of incoherent verbiage .. :)

  jenny : ya that's true :) i think people relish it when they find someone who isnt intimidating, or is seen to them as someone weaker or less smart or less cunning. i'm a naturally dominant person.. so for many years, especially in high school, i've always been the intimidating one. but now i've kinda taken the backseat. i suppose ive changed. but it still makes me laugh inside when i look at people try to manipulate their way through social situations by intimidating other people whom they think are easy to puppet with. i dont feel intimidated by them because of my own inherent dominance, but i like it when they try their moves on me. it gives me such a huge perspective on human nature.. and demarcates who i can call friends and who i cant.

  ams : exactly.. :)

  gin & waffle : haha he always likes to act cute wan la

  bunbread : hahaha. dont let them push you around !

• 24. Waifon  |  November 16th, 2008 at 4:46 pm

  how can right, ive been your reading your blog for how long already i ask you and i still can misinterpret ah. sigh damn fail :( but okay at least you knw wht im talking abt wtf not so shy.

• 25. grace  |  November 16th, 2008 at 6:51 pm

  ahhhh i can totally identify with that. i don't think i've raised my voice against a person more than twice in total since i got here, i've been painfully nice (i think larh) and it's interrrrresting how people take advantage of that. esp the lazy people, who try to dump all their work on you. and the suitemates who assume you're going to do their dishes and clean up after them just because you're too “nice” to make a fuss about it.

  but only here la. i don't think i could tahan being this nice in KL. haha :)

• 26. skyler  |  November 16th, 2008 at 11:10 pm

  pinkypau i am depressed =(

• 27. Teddy  |  November 17th, 2008 at 10:19 am

  People can be manipulative, and sometimes, even though we know we should run from them, we remain… Because it reminds us that we're different, that if we run and do the same thing instead of facing it and make a difference, we will just end up exactly like what we dislike XD

  Being true to oneself… is always the best solution :D

• 28. joyce  |  November 17th, 2008 at 12:24 pm

  It's a pity really that not everyone has a certain underlying respect for everyone because everyone is equal in a way, if your account for each person's circumstances and influences in their life. Makes me feel lucky in a way, sometimes.

  Haha. It's interesting to see how some people's behaviour change when you show your strengths. It'll be good nonetheless, if you can enlighten these people. I don't think some are even aware of it.

  Then, there are those who are really intimidated by these people. Being a less intimidating person helps you to relate/connect with them better to encourage/help them. It's really satisfying when you see a once meek person become stronger with your help.

• 29. sherlyn  |  November 17th, 2008 at 12:39 pm

  i totally agreee wit tis as i got 2 friends in the same situation n they keep on bully by ppl or treated as a slave by other ppl…i really hate those ppl who always take advantages on kind ppl…=.=”" anyway…u might not knowing but i know u well cz i'm a fan of ur blog!nice blog! :p

• 30. Nick Chhan  |  November 18th, 2008 at 4:50 am

  I generally look young for my age, even when I graduated I still looked like I was still 15-17. Generally, you see many fakes, and hear many condescending remarks that people think you don't realize. Especially the work place. How fun to use this to my advantage. You learn alot when people think you're dumb.

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