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• 1. Voon  |  July 6th, 2009 at 6:08 pm

  pinkpau i am your no.1 fan because im the first to post.

• 2. Not Waffle  |  July 6th, 2009 at 6:13 pm

  That’s not how you use the wor-..Nevermind

• 3. pinkpau  |  July 6th, 2009 at 6:15 pm

  voonie, i am your number one fan because you embody the spirit of cambridge ^_____^

  waffle, IT IS. WIKI IT.

• 4. LennyTheLion  |  July 6th, 2009 at 6:16 pm

  my story is similar to yours where both of us got turned on by each others’ obnoxious behavior and somehow seemingly attracted to each others’ cute witty charms and of cos my humour and persistence to ensure that besides fate and destiny, there has to be a want and a need to have each other.
  We were in the same University extra-curriculum group and at the first meeting, I sat beside her to make small talk and she lied to me she was a lesbian and told me to stay away from her, but then I got attracted to her by virtue that her dad was ex-national basketball player. And all things basketball got me excited and especially so when she was amazing smart and cute as well. So I decided to end her lesbianism thoughts…so my story is not about a current girlfriend (not that i have one), but an ex girlfriend I regret letting go… Can’t wait for your next entry next Monday! Have a great week ahead and for more amazing love stories – http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articleglamourmatch.aspx?cp-documentid=18196562

• 5. su  |  July 6th, 2009 at 6:17 pm

  I met him at a Thai language class. My first impression was “oh. (cute) gay boy in class” cos his t shirt was like quite tight. hahaha. and he thought i was very atas cos I turned around, saw him, whipped my head back and didn’t bother to say hi. LOL. I think I caught his attention cos I was half Thai. heh. *ooh so exotic* but actually I’m not. :P

  fast forward to 2months later, he asked for my number to keep in contact “if I was going for level 2 classes”. ah so obvious but I played along. and after a few witty sms-es, he asked me out for a movie. The end! lol :D

  hope my silly story made you smile a bit!!

• 6. KY  |  July 6th, 2009 at 6:22 pm

  Yess! your blog is in the shade of pink that is unfit for work!

• 7. Zeek  |  July 6th, 2009 at 6:49 pm

  hi Pau. its been so long since i last checked on quaintly.net simply becoz im super busy and well, you lack of updates.

  so ok, i met my gf (well, ex now) during my french class in Alliance Francais. she thought im a japanese dude and even my lecturer accuse me for lying. i told him im a malaysian and he said im lying. WTF?! most of our dates are french related may it be watching a play or going for international screenings at GSC. but somehow things got worse. she’s stubborn, im even more stubborn. we fought almost every other day until both of us also fed up! :(

• 8. hanna  |  July 6th, 2009 at 7:48 pm

  what is this o_O how do you know i cannot resist sharing such stories!

  okay, my current bf of almost 3 years and i were actually really close friends in college, but in that arms-length way of people who have significant others. when my ex broke up with me (a story to save for your “stupid things your ex boyfriend has done” entry), he became one of my principal rocks to lean on, and we became even closer. one day, while watching man utd play on a horrible-quality gamecast online, we found ourselves holding hands. and after a week of agonizing over “ruining the friendship,” he asked me to “go steady” with him. and that, almost 3 years later, is that.

  you should ask about cute first i love you stories! those always give me the warm fuzzies :).

  p/s – friendship was not at all ruined, by the way. he’s still my best friend. :)

• 9. Patricia  |  July 6th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

  ahaha

  “oh my god i cannot stand this girl. why is she so pink and so happy?”

  ahahah damn cute!

  i dont have any stories to tell leh… ok i know im 17 aldy but srsly, my life like… bleh. *runs and hides in loser corner :(

  ahahhaha cannot get over u “basically didnt apply to his university and he thought my choices of colleges were not atas enough” hahah!

• 10. geraldine  |  July 6th, 2009 at 8:28 pm

  i met my bf the same way you met your (ex) bf. he sent me a sarcastic email proclaiming to be my number one fan. that was 8 years ago (yikes). since then, and in no chronological order, we’ve been best friends, sworn enemies, mere acquaintances, cuddle buddies, internet pals, lovers, and recently – an LDR couple.
  i read your post about your breakup with martian. i don’t know how it is with you guys now but i know that it is hard. i’ve been in an LDR since february this year and although it hasn’t been terribly long, i know that feeling of waking up alone, walking down the street by yourself, showering, brushing your teeth, eating breakfast all by yourself, when you’re used to having someone else do those things with you. it can be crushingly lonely. especially when you move from a warm tropical country to a freezing antarctic hellhole…
  a book by rainer maria rilke – letters to a young poet – helped me a lot. maybe you’ve read it, and he puts it much more eloquently than i can, but i will summarise it a little for your readers who might be going through an LDR.
  basically, his advice is for us to hold on to our solitudes when young and seek our own identities first, rather than flinging ourselves at each other while still half-formed and in the process lose ourselves for the sake of another person. it really helped me put things into perspective.
  i think i’ve rambled on for long enough. keep writing :)

• 11. Ling  |  July 6th, 2009 at 8:39 pm

  Hello Su-Ann! I’ll apologize for laughing at your story… It is really a cute and sweet story, but apparently the world is too small because I happened to know your “atas” ex-boyfriend :} Me no sexy-not charming- not cute-unladylike-very foul-mouthed-can’t quote Oscar Wilde-etc.-so we aren’t really friends.

  Why? I blatantly said to his face (and in front of his “atas” college friends) what an a**hole he was :P Nopes, I wasn’t drunk.

  By the way, I love the pinkness of your blog :)

• 12. zzzyun  |  July 6th, 2009 at 9:13 pm

  ooo cute!

  well i met my current bf in a funny way. we somehow became just normal friends 1st and he was quite emo for a period of time because the girl he used to like hid from him twice the fact abt having a bf. (different ones btw!)

  and somehow one day he and i were alone. and he just started confiding in me his sad sad story.. and i being sucha nice person (hehe) listened to his sad story and comforted him.

  and the rest, as u can see, is history :P

• 13. Tan Yee Hou  |  July 6th, 2009 at 9:19 pm

  @KYspeaks – Any blog is SFW at the Nuffnang office!!

• 14. andrea  |  July 6th, 2009 at 9:36 pm

  nice blog! cute concept (the meme)

  although… i would feel exactly the same way as your ex did towards happy, cheerful people

  the world is too sad for optimists *shakes head*

• 15. piyi  |  July 6th, 2009 at 10:13 pm

  haha your pink is nice pinkpau :) dont worry. its the florescent pink ive got -errr- problems with..hehe. dont have anything to share since my love life is basically nada but i cant wait for next monday!

• 16. fatcat  |  July 6th, 2009 at 10:33 pm

  I got no story to share.
  :((
  The closest memory/incident I have is in psch (I know so pathetic T_T), someone told another person he liked me and from then on I hid from/didn’t talk to that someone.

  Anw, I got interview/auditions for JC admission this sat. If you happen to read my comment before friday, any advice for me? :)

• 17. michy  |  July 6th, 2009 at 10:58 pm

  Can I play cheat since I’ve blogged about it before and just leave the link here? Haha! :P

  http://wallaby-michy.blogspot.com/2009/04/my-first-love-part-1.html

• 18. Hillary  |  July 6th, 2009 at 11:02 pm

  I was from a small town called Melaka. He was from a big city called Singapura. I was offered a chance to attend this supposedly life-changing course called Money & You for a low, low price even though I was hardly interested. He was offered a chance to attend this supposedly life-changing course for free even though he didn’t think much of such courses.

  But he went because he was told he will get a chance to meet someone whom he had badly wanted to meet for along time. And I went because… oh well… what the heck, my parents think it is a good course.

  Our eyes froze each other across when they met across the hall and they couldn’t be persuaded to blink or look away. So we walked and talked and did things with our eyes intently gazing each other and it was weird and it was something and it happened.

• 19. Jian Wei Ang  |  July 6th, 2009 at 11:46 pm

  *This is probably one of the very few comments I leave in blogs* Your story very cute lah! HAHA! Yes, calculus is a bane for most people. But at least it got you somewhere! =) How’s the internship coming along?

• 20. Calleigh  |  July 7th, 2009 at 12:46 am

  I was head over heels over another guy..and he was like a big brother. Listening to me when I woke him up sobbing at 12am when the other guy rejected me. We also work together so he’ll leave me notes in the middle of (seemingly) work related stuff. Notes telling me I’m the world’s best girl. He’s still telling me those things now. Apparently he’s liked me for awhile but was with his long term ex and suffered agony and resigned to being a big brother to me. Then office romance blossomed and received everyone’s blessings :)

• 21. Lact0se  |  July 7th, 2009 at 12:48 am

  Omgg!!! she’s finally single
  Nows my chance!!!!!!!
  ;p

• 22. flory  |  July 7th, 2009 at 1:12 am

  i went jet skiing, and fell out into the water. jellyfish surrounded me, my eyes were stinging from the salt water and little fish slithered past my toes. i was panicking, when strong arms pulled me out of the treacherous depths…

  okay, i was joking. but that totally got you interested, right? the real story is short and stupid: rebound-fling turned we-thought-it-was-real turned he-turned-creepy-ass-stalker. i remove him. the end. :D

• 23. raisin  |  July 7th, 2009 at 1:49 am

  I had a huge crush on him. And then I went and joined all the societies and clubs that he joined. Basically I was very stalker-ish (actually I still am but wtheck).
  Hehe.

• 24. bryanlyt  |  July 7th, 2009 at 2:18 am

  hmmm can’t wait to know the ‘great sin’ next monday…

• 25. abby  |  July 7th, 2009 at 2:42 am

  I’ve been in the same uni with him for abt 2 years, and one day, I just suddenly talked to him, not realizing because I well, was in the football club commitee and he was playing football. and then, fb, texting, everything. i was sad at one point cos he was acting all un-interested in me, so i decided to give it a tough shot and told him tht i dug him. worked. ;)

• 26. M  |  July 7th, 2009 at 3:53 am

  I was an intern, he was a lawyer. I said no, he waited three years, and now we’re together :P

• 27. roborovski  |  July 7th, 2009 at 4:06 am

  excuse me! i did not pester you to go out “for drinks, dinner, movies, clubbing, anything”; and you only turned me down once to purportedly study for a calculus exam — which inspired a certain early flight.

  and we eventually got together because -you- were no match for my cute charms. i recall winning :)

  and yes, i am madly in love with you. so pls come back to me bb.

• 28. Twinkle  |  July 7th, 2009 at 8:45 am

  Huh? No. 27 tuu MArtian ke?

• 29. pinkpau  |  July 7th, 2009 at 9:24 am

  lennythelion : your girl sounds like a really spunky one! go back and get her! btw are you really lenny the lion /suspicious

  su : hahaha he was so obvious! at least he made the first move :P

  KY : dont be afraid of pink, kyspiks! do the internet like a man!

  zeek : haha why do people think you’re japanese?! is it the way you look or your fluency in japanese? it’s so hilarious that they accused you of lying. haiyah sometimes fighting is good :) keeps things alive. but you’re right, excessive fighting is always draining on the soul

  hanna : awwwww :) it’s so important that our significant others be our best friends. i’m glad yours is yours. :)

  patricia : eh that’s what he said :P so bad right?

  geraldine : hahahaha!!! what a cool guy :) but that’s the kind of spunk that provides the engine for 8 years and more of love. thank you for sharing that quote :) i’ve come to find that what rilke said is true. i hope that you and your man will find the many ways to customize your LDR into perfection, and i wish you two all the very best :) it’s not easy, but i have a good feeling!

  ling : HAHA you called him a WHAT?!?! this is the cutest story ever. (though i suspect he’s going to feel very petulant about this) wait how do you guys know each other? and how did you know about oscar wilde?! who are you!!! do we know each other too?!

  zzzyun : i hope that other girl has been banished far far away for hurting your poor dude :( why must hide these things?

  tanyeehou : ya man best workplace on earth

  andrea : awww dont hate us happy people :) we mean no harm.

  piyi : eh cannot like that lah :( next monday you share ah!

  fatcat : hahaha you’re so funny. one of my best friends is just like you. and sorry, no, no advice about the JC because i didnt go through that system. but my general rule of thumb for interviews is to always take charge. dont be afraid to have sparkling conversation despite the formal setting.

  michy : eh why like that!

  hillary : wow. that sounded like it came out of a korean tv series. are you guys still going strong? :)

  jian wei ang : haha wht do you mean at least it got me somewhere?! it got HIM somewhere wtf. internship is good! learning lots. but eng han has abandoned me for the nicer building today.

  calleigh : omg your guy sounds like the sweetest thing alive. i hope you two are still head over heels in love!!

  lactose : who is? good luck i guess!

  flory : HAHA that’s the way. show ‘em who’s boss.

  raisin : noooo wrong moveeee. play hard to get hard to get hard to get!!!

  bryanlyt : EH where’s your story! you think this is free reading ah wtf

  abby : you play football?! man that is so cool. and you’re totally brave — i could never do what you did. glad it worked! :)

  M : I LOVE THIS STORY :D basically i like any intern-boss stories. sorry, it’s the loyalty to grey’s anatomy speaking. good grief i hope my bosses dont read this. (bossbird and bossrabbit, dont misunderstand ah wtf i just like it when it’s fictitious…)

  roborovski : oh fighting back are we. you only won because you totally conned me. i was so unsuspecting and truly believed i had found myself a nice hamster :(

  twinkle: huh and who are you?

• 30. Nicole  |  July 7th, 2009 at 9:41 am

  HAHAHAHA oh shit it’s monday hahahah u’r damn witty la pinkpau. :P

• 31. Michelle  |  July 7th, 2009 at 9:49 am

  I ate durians on monday.

• 32. Mel  |  July 7th, 2009 at 10:14 am

  This is fun, so I thought I’ll share something. (My first comment here though. Pardon if it’s too long)

  Frankly speaking, I can’t remember exactly how I first knew my boyfriend. Talk about great first impression, or more like, the lack of it. So to start off, we attended the same church. Now, how we met, I’m afraid I have to bore you first with a few versions simply because. First version, his brother introduced us. I have a vague memory about this first introduction but I’m not quite sure because another version, a second version, we were introduced by a mutual friend. Again, it could be, but I guess, because we didn’t have a big impact on each other, so it was more like one of those awkward introductions, “Oh hello, nice to know you. Bye.” But these two versions aside, what happened during the next meeting was the kick off to our so-called courtship, which was really more on his side because at that time, I had a huge crush on this guy, let’s call him A and A was a good friend of my boyfriend, who was then, just a friend, and let’s call my boyfriend (then friend) B. One fine day, there was this mini concert in town and A invited me to the concert. So, A picked me up from home. And well, the next thing I knew, I was sitting next to B in the car. So, being the chatty person that I am, I began talking to B, about our majors, college, SARs etc. And when we reached the concert venue, somehow, instead of sitting next to A, I sat next to B who was actually in between A and I. Talk about being a huge ‘Light Bulb’. And each time, I tried to talk to A, B would be interrupting us. So, okay that night didn’t turn out the way I wanted it to. But somehow, my friendship with B grew from that. We started from a one-liner conversation, to making a few passing witty remarks, and eventually, we began spending a lot of time, on the phone, just talking about everything and anything. And though I had the inkling that B likes me, I tried to ignore the obvious. Until one night, B confessed his feelings for me. And what did I do. I turned him down and told him that I had feelings for A. So, B was crushed and well, we didn’t talk for about a month after that confession night. I kinda missed talking to B so I smsed him one fine day and told him I missed our friendship and we began talking again. Still as friends. And along the way, B asked again, if I would give him a chance, and I had to turn him down stating that I’m just not ready and it wouldn’t be fair to him because again, there was still A. And although nothing ever happened between A and I, I needed time to get over him in order to be able to love a person. So, B and I continued being the best of friends and I guess along the way, we grew closer as we got to know each others’ endearing quirks and personalities and, without realizing, I’ve fallen in love with B, my best friend who is now my boyfriend. Oh, and yeah, B, being the charming persistant that he was and still is, asked for the third time, and I remember looking at him and thinking how handsome he look that day, and said, ‘Yes.’. So, that was 6 years ago. And today, I am happy to report that, we are still very much in love.

  Although, it wasn’t a ‘love at first sight’ sort of story, I’m glad it evolved the way it did.

• 33. LennyTheLion  |  July 7th, 2009 at 10:43 am

  Sorry no sure if there were other Lenny the Lions around, I just assumed that it was only your soft toy Lion that you named Lenny. And I just started reading your blog after meeting you and Kenny in Singapore recently. Any advice to win a spunky girl back? She is a lot like you I think, just completing her MBA in Chicago.

• 34. Cheryl  |  July 7th, 2009 at 10:50 am

  I met the ex at a bloggers meet about 2 years ago. Exchanged links and emails, next thing you know, we were chatting, web cam-ing and finally got together. Funny how blogging can change someones life.

• 35. pinkpau  |  July 7th, 2009 at 10:50 am

  nicole : *curtsy!

  michelle : that’s not a boyfriend story..

  mel : awwww i like your story so much. i have this stupid belief that when i meet my person, i will know instantly, a la love at first sight. but of course these things rarely happen outside of fiction. so thank you for the encouraging story :)

  lennythelion : haha yes my lenny is the only lenny the lion running around. but now there’s you! YA i suspected it was you….. all this while i thought you were one of my friends (who knows abt lenny) pretending to be lenny :P

  cheryl : agreed :))))

• 36. sweatlee  |  July 7th, 2009 at 10:55 am

  su ann!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you’re lying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! or not!!!!!!!!!! but i’ll never know cause you don’t come on msn!! eh my gmail cant use. office banned it wtf. come on msn!

• 37. LennyTheLion  |  July 7th, 2009 at 11:03 am

  u are hilarious…but it will be a nice “Toy Story III” for a soft toy lion who manages to get on the internet and post replies to his owner’s blog entries.
  Sorry about the anonymity confusions but all I can remember was an awkward introduction moment of “I name my soft toy Lion – Lenny”, that somehow got stuck in my head, but it was better than the usual “My girlfriend is called Lennie as well!”…haha

• 38. gabby  |  July 7th, 2009 at 11:20 am

  i was studying at the US and was at a sorority house party where it was SOO insanely warm i’d rather stand outside of the house in the blistering cold. cos it was so cold i had to smoke,but had no light. so i spotted the guy whom i thought looked most likely to have a light.. and he had a light. and i smoked like a chimney that night so i kept asking him for a light. like thrice. so he thought i was hitting on him HAHHA which i seriously wasn’t. i just wanted a light. i was a little buzzed and when he was talking to me he was like yaddah yaddah and i just sort of zoned out, didn’t really make any conversation. he ended up asking me out, to which i snootily said: i’m sorry i don’t date american boys. he said in this very firm and manly voice: “first of all, i am a man, not a boy. And secondly i’m not american. i’m consider myself brazilian.” i was completely speechless so i meekly said okay and gave him my number… (: he still makes me speechless

• 39. gabby  |  July 7th, 2009 at 11:21 am

  aiyo i mean studying *in the US !

• 40. gabby  |  July 7th, 2009 at 11:22 am

  and *i consider myself brazilian .ohman what’s with my english today

• 41. Amelia  |  July 7th, 2009 at 12:36 pm

  I met my current bf thru 1 of my housemates, 3 years ago. First of all, my housemates and I have this 1 guy friend (who’s quite close to us), and his classmate was apparently my current bf. So our friend introduce my hsemate to him (as a friend la) and they got along well very quickly and he often went to our condo and so on.

  Moved on to the next semester, on the first day of the re-enrollment in college, my current bf and my hsemate got into a misunderstanding that leads him to think that my hsemate hated him (which is not true at all). Our frequency of msn-chat then became so intense and he often told me about how he had committed such a mistake that couldn’t be turned back yadda yadda yadda.

  Over the next 2 or 3 months, we became very close friends that eventually led to him asking me to be his gf with such a way that I thought only existed in comic books ;)

• 42. Calleigh  |  July 7th, 2009 at 12:49 pm

  He still is the sweetest thing and we ARE very much head over heels with each other. You know what, Mel’s story is a good testimony. Don’t always just look for the “instant attraction” or chemistry or only trust your heart…the best thing melt your heart, but can withstand your cold head’s scrutiny as well :) I am a living testimony of that.

• 43. PaperPlanes  |  July 7th, 2009 at 2:01 pm

  oh wow, looks like many things have transpired for you guys to meet and eventually date each other.
  for me and my boyfriend, it just started early last year. i was heading a team for an orientation camp for new students. and since it’s been a habit of mine to be uber-early (read: 0.5 to 1 hour early), i was the first one there. i wasn’t surprised. but then around 5 minutes later, he came in through the door asking if i’m going to the camp as well. he was the second person to arrive. apparently, he tends to be uber-early as well. he has the same name as my dad, which is something since the name is not very common. except for this, he didn’t really strike me as extraordinary, but i thought he was very charming. we didn’t really hang out so much after, as we had our own “interests” and own circle of friends. then he got to know some of my friends through uni. after a while, i invited him to join us. we became very close friends and after 5 months, and many events that transpired in between, we started having mutual feelings and started dating officially at the end of last year. now, we’re going strong. apart from the fact the he got transferred overseas for work, we’re making the effort and it’s all good. :)

• 44. lingzie  |  July 7th, 2009 at 3:23 pm

  first time leaving a comment here, though have been a stalker for quite some time… :)

  how i met my guy? well it was thoroughly unexpected. he was a blog reader of mine and sent me an email asking me about one of my posts. i replied. that was that.

  then one day a few months later, for some strange reason or other, we started chatting on gmail and hit it off. and we chatted almost every other day for abt half a year or so. after a while i kinda knew he was interested. but didn’t take it too seriously (for all i know he could have been some weird psycho stalker right?)
  finally (after deducing that we were both not weird psycho stalkers) we decided to meet in person (he doesnt live in the same state as i). after our third date (which happened about 3mths after our first meeting) – he reached out for my hand. and the rest is history lor…

  so yeah. ditto cheryl’s comment about how blogging can change someone’s life. :)

  PS: i love reading everyone’s stories as well!

• 45. Michelle  |  July 7th, 2009 at 4:52 pm

  Because I don’t have a boyfriend or an ex boyfriend. My relationships are as fickle as fortune.

• 46. lishun  |  July 7th, 2009 at 6:24 pm

  i don’t have a love story because i’ve never been in love. =(

• 47. Zeek  |  July 7th, 2009 at 6:41 pm

  i dont knw. maybe its the mata sepet and eyebrow hahaha… . or maybe its the way my name is spelt. no ler, i dont speak japanese but ‘je parle francais!’

  comment ‘allez vous, Pau? tres bien?

• 48. Nat  |  July 7th, 2009 at 6:42 pm

  My fiance read my blog in my friendster (haha long story there, he was a friend of a friend of mine, I thought he was cute that was why I added him). He thought I was real and fell in love with me. Few months later we met in Singapore as he always came here for diving. The rest is history!

  Ps: I never told anyone about this! Haha

• 49. sheon  |  July 7th, 2009 at 9:51 pm

  i knew L from secondary skol. but wasnt close. she lived near my house in alor setar. there was once she was hospitalized, and i thought it’ll be a good gesture to visit her, so i visited her and brought her some gift. then we were roped in to work on a school musical for the sultan’s annual visit, and we were in the choir section. we became ‘proper’ frens during the musical production.
  then after secondary skol (i’m 3 yrs her senior), i went on to KL. i was interested in her other fren actually, so while i was in constant contact with L’s fren, i lost contact with L.
  after L grad sec.skol, she went on to penang for her A level. there was once i needed to talk, and L’s fren couldnt layan me, she asked me chat up L instead, which i did. so i found out L was awarded with a jpa scholarship and was heading to KL soon. so i offered to take her around town for watever was necessary.
  little did i know, i fell in love with her while chaperoning her around kl. she lost weight due to the horrible food served in her canteen, so many times i would cook herbal soup or make some light healthy meal for her everytime i visited her.
  i took her to my prom, and after the prom, she said yes.

  there!

• 50. lone  |  July 8th, 2009 at 12:39 am

  lovely blog! keep it up! :)

• 51. Jeeng  |  July 8th, 2009 at 1:25 am

  He was just “one of the guys” -as was I, apparently- for the entire first term of first year. We hung out as a group, went out for dinners on Saturdays, chilled in rooms and watched movies on laptops. I probably would’ve never realised my feelings for him were beyond friendship if not for an interfering mother (”Aiya daughter, got anyone you like or not? Any boys interested in you or not ah? I think… I think N is very close to you hor! All your pictures together one!”) and an Easter trip to the Continent, when he, under the infinitely cheery Spanish sun and stress-free atmosphere, dropped his guards and unwittingly showed that he, too, felt something.

  Post-Barcelona he became even more of a regular visitor, and eventually dinners together were simply a routine. I was confused about what we were, but resolved to let him take the first step. And thus under such puzzling notfriendsnotyetacouple circumstances, we parted upon landing in Malaysia.

  In July, he came up to my state with his college friends on a road trip; I joined them. My parents came by a mutual friend’s house party we were at to drop off something, and he insisted upon meeting them. His friends -now mine, too- questioned us separately about our status, but all I could do was stare wide-eyed back and said in all painful honesty: I don’t know.

  A few days later, his friends’ question “Be honest – are you together?” ringing incessantly in the back of my mind, I texted him: What are we?

  His reply stunned me.

  “We’re together. How many times do you want to ask?”

  “But that’s because you never quite answered my questions – and when did we get together?! You never asked me!”

  Further interrogation yielded the truth: He thought he’d asked me, and insisted that he did. But I, in all my insecure ohmygod did I misinterpret moments, can safely say: WHERE GOT. Then the dear boy said: Oh. Maybe I dreamt that I asked you.

  :p

  So one fine night last Summer, on a highway, in the backseat of the car, I found out that I was in a three-month old relationship.

  It’s been 15months, and although not long by much to crow about, marks days of gratitude for having him by my side. We’ve had our fair share of fights, tears, angry words, and what seems to be a disproportionately large share of silly joyful moments. I intend to see this through, so that’s a little bit of wilful optimism for you.

  I’ve told him: You’re marrying me ma, right?

  :D

  Have a good work week.

• 52. jappuffy  |  July 8th, 2009 at 1:38 am

  I was working in a rnb club as their ambassador in Melbourne and he came clubbing every week ALONE. I see him clubbing alone and asked him bout his friends, he just say they are either coming or what so ever, but I never see them turn up.

  When I am off duty and ready to walk home, he would then say since he is leaving, he can just drop me off ‘the corner’
  I knew he lived like at least 30 mins from the city but he still insisted to drop by to drink every week and sending me home was a ‘by the way’ again.

  I later found out of course he came by every week so he could wait for me to get off work to send me home as he did not want me to walk home.
  super sweetness

• 53. CraSH  |  July 8th, 2009 at 1:52 am

  back when i was growing up.. there is no such things as computers and internets or at least the web… so how does high school children communicate? old school communication…. we write mails. yes! actual hand written mails with a 10cent stamp stuck on the envelope and mailed to each other.

  we got to know each other via some postings in school mags about finding pen pals and i decided to write to a couple of the girls. somehow she stood out to be very friendly and down to earth. we shared lots of nice stories writing each other and kept it up for a couple years because i am from penang and she is in malacca. on and off i could catch 3 sweet minutes of talking time on the phone. back in the days, calling long distance are expensive as hell especially for poor blokes like me.

  the feelings are still fresh in my memory.. the anxious waiting for the postman daily, hoping to find the little white envelope… ah, so blissful… for the rest of the story~ haha.. sorry, it ends here, unless you are interested. email me.

  dont you think that getting mails is just so different? so much more personal?….. those were the days…..

• 54. wenqi  |  July 8th, 2009 at 2:04 am

  limsuann! why are u so cute!

• 55. nyrac  |  July 8th, 2009 at 2:42 am

  i am now having a huge crush on someone who looks awfully lot like my ex and is unattainable to me :(

• 56. natalie  |  July 8th, 2009 at 3:42 am

  The story of N and I is a bit funny.
  When we first met, we have been hearing about each other’s names for about a year but both couldn’t be bothered to get acquainted. We both thought: “just because you’re also from my country doesn’t mean that we must be friend!”.
  We finally met accidentally a few months later. We both have certain curiosity on each other – but not the romantic kind. More like “you intrigued me”.
  We talked and later on she thought (secretly) that I’d be a perfect candidate for her bestfriend – who was also her ex.
  I was however already smitten with her.

  Long story short, we started off really casual, with a lot of reservations from both side – especially hers. She was broken hearted at that time from a previous relationship and was not ready to get hurt again.
  Her: “we don’t kiss, otherwise it gets too personal”
  Me: (out of pride) “of course not! That’s also what I thought exactly. No string attached!”.
  Her: “don’t mention love”
  Me: “of course not!”
  We kissed. We mentioned love. And she even asked me to marry her. She was the first person I have truly loved.
  We are no longer together for reasons too complicated to be mentioned here. now I am considering a relationship with her best friend.
  My ex, her bestfriend and me are now bestfriends – brought together by strange twist of fate – and I hope, whatever happens in the future, we will always be.

  I have always enjoyed your blog posts Su Ann, I hope my story will bring the same enjoyment to you :)

  cheers from a faraway land.

• 57. carol  |  July 8th, 2009 at 4:22 am

  my tales are too boring and short-lived to grace the pages of quaintly.net :)

  haha roborovski so defensive :P and so atas.

• 58. bjk  |  July 8th, 2009 at 11:17 am

  i knew him through friendster! he didnt post any photos of him, so when he sent me a message, i replied back asking him to be more sincere(by posting pics) if he really wana befriend me.

  From friendster inbox to online chatting to meeting up for dinner to confessing online to dating, the whole process took less than 2 monthes. We skipped the “friend” part and now still going strong. It’s been 2 years, and I love him, a lot.

• 59. Adrian C  |  July 8th, 2009 at 11:26 am

  we met at a poolside bbq party she was hosting. she’s singaporean and i’m malaysian. the next thing that ensued was a disagreement of kuan yew vs dr mahathir circa early 80s proportions (she said something disparaging about malaysian men – that we’re completely useless and ungentlemanly or whatever). so, in the defence of the honour of malaysians (and malaysian men in particular), i asked her out for coffee. and also helped her fix her doggie door. and dropped her at the bus station when she went home to see her parents over the weekend. and I …Hey, WAIT A MINUTE! i think i’ve fallen for the oldest trick in the book!!! haha. anyway, it was a good relationship but ultimately things didn’t work out and we went our separate ways.

• 60. vvens  |  July 8th, 2009 at 12:11 pm

  hahaha. i like OSIM! hhaha. anyways, my story is a very common one. i’ve already know about this guy’s existence in school but never did talk to him until our form4’s sports’ day preparation where my girls are all in blue house and i’m the only one in green, and i decided to join them because i feel left out, and that’s how i get to know their captain ;p from then till now :)

• 61. jac  |  July 8th, 2009 at 12:43 pm

  lol…i traded dinner for help with my admissions essay!!! =) awesome deal i made…just too bad i had to fall for him..urgh!

  i love OSIM!

• 62. Winnie Tan  |  July 8th, 2009 at 1:06 pm

  omg “Jeeng” you read SuAnn’s blog too!

  I was wondering who has such a nice story which is a bit like mine and I clicked and it is YOU!

  Small World

  Mine is a bit like Jeeng’s really, 6 years ago I saw this guy in my Maths tuition but never really talked to him. Then somehow, we’ve grown into the habit of me sitting a row in front of him. My friend talked to him a bit due to reasons I cannot remember but they’re weren’t checking each other out.

  I was there saying nothing much but we ended up exchanging ICQ numbers and chatted a bit on the Internet but not much due to differences in daily routines and internet availability.

  Slowly we grew closer during those sessions in tuition and functions between schools, with joking and teasing as the main part of our communication, still is very much like that these days, but much toned down I suppose, with age lol.

  I didn’t really realise I was well, I suppose at that time puppy love can also be called love, in love with him as was he with me. It was, like Jeeng, people around us who got us thinking.

  Friend: “Are you with K?”
  Me: “No, why?”
  Friend: “Are you sure? You guys look the part, everybody else has been asking me and people have been talking”
  Me: “Haiya no la you all having very vivid imaginations”

  But they sure got me thinking and I suppose it got him thinking too. How we got together is again a very muddled up situation, it’s a bit like we both realised we have been together without realising it and decided from then on we’re together

  Throughout the 5 and a half years after about a year of friendship we’ve had our ups and downs, sometimes taking breaks to allow growing up, we’re still young and there’s lot of growing up to do. I suppose it has grown from puppy love to love.

  What the future holds I shall not say, but I hope everybody who has shared their story here will find their own happy ending, whether with the person they’re with now or in the future.

  Be strong SuAnn, to a certain extent I believe in fate.

  “What Will Be Will Be” – if they’re yours no matter if you let them go they will be back, because you’re meant to be together

  Painful, but true to a certain extent =)

• 63. Captain Seamus  |  July 8th, 2009 at 1:22 pm

  Arrr I love telling stories! Gather around the lantern mates!

  It was a dark, stormy night. I was taking a stroll down West of the Straits of Portugal, going down to the local brewery to garner meself some whiskey.

  And there she was, in the distance, way over at the pier. She caught my eye immediately. She had the grace of a Persian feather and a stern, unfriendly Greek look, the way I like it. And her booty, arrr, such fine big bottomed booty that could only have come from the deep jungles of Africa. I love big bottoms, I cannot deny!

  (I am also well-travelled as ye can tell.)

  The ocean gales blew but she stood strong. She was a tough one too, a challenge, a prize, a bountiful treasure!

  With a glint in my marble eye, I put on my biggest one-legged stride. When I got closer, I realized how she held steady – she was tied with ropes to a pole! Braving the crashing waves, I whipped out my rusty knife and started cutting away at the rope. It was tough, but she rewarded my progress by gently nudging me with her bottom. Okay maybe not so gently, I went overboard a few times (kinda hard when your peg has no feet.) But I enjoyed it. It’s normal that when the waves get strong, seamen get ejected from a pier.

  I freed her, and she was eternally grateful! And so, we sailed the seas, pillaging, looting and burning, happily in love.

  I love ya Adriana, I really do.

• 64. fatcat  |  July 8th, 2009 at 5:12 pm

  Ok, I’ll try to talk to them instead of tremble with nervousness. HAHA.

• 65. Hillary  |  July 8th, 2009 at 5:49 pm

  Thanks for asking. :) We’ve been through a lot of ups and downs and our bond is stronger now than ever before. I truly believe that the best is yet to come.

• 66. amber  |  July 8th, 2009 at 8:26 pm

  Su Ann, what’s your take on the switch back to BM teaching medium of mathematics and science?

  I believe having good English is NOT just because you learn those two subjects in BI. It all falls down to your own initiative whether you want to improve beyond answering exam questions.

  Heck, we, kids of 80s, especially people like you and me, ‘88 who are the second last batch of students using BM medium instruction to learn our mathematik modern, mathematik tambahan, kimia, fizik and biology.

  And look at you! Your English is superb and we learnt BM! And I learn many new words to express emotion. I admire you vocabulary! Hats off to you

• 67. Napolean  |  July 8th, 2009 at 9:46 pm

  hello

• 68. siti  |  July 8th, 2009 at 11:22 pm

  so cute your story!

  i met mine at a community service event that was held for uni students from south east asia and unis all over malaysia. There were 3 busloads of men in army uniform approach the counter where we’re supposed to get our numbers for our groupings. we’re supposed to be randomly placed to get to know other ppl. by now i was hyperventilating cos i have a weakness for men in uniforms :P

  my friends from the same uni wanted us all to be together so they changed their numbers but i kept mine. I was busy making friends with some girls and spied 3 army guys in our same group. i kept turning behind wanting to say hi, but too malu lah. after grouping together we were assigned buildings to clean/paint/beautify. as we were walking the only one wearing the army uniform tapped me on the shoulder and asked if i’m chinese.. (actually i’m malay) since he was the only one in uniform it was easy to spot him and stick to him. kononnya doing community service. ;P

  we chatted while picking rubbish and carrying 10kg bags of trash around the housing area in the rain as well as avoiding dead rats and animal droppings. we exchanged numbers at the end of the event to keep in touch.

  after a few months of chatting we finally got together despite the distance and scarce communication :) he must have found me attractive despite smelling like a dump and looking like a wet cat.

  make sure you go for community service su ann! you never know who you’ll meet. :D

  Love your blog btw!

• 69. voon  |  July 8th, 2009 at 11:54 pm

  post no.66 is post of the month =)

• 70. voon  |  July 9th, 2009 at 12:00 am

  and lim su ann. can you stop being mean to hamsters. ;)

• 71. pinkpau  |  July 9th, 2009 at 12:07 am

  sweatlee : wait lie about what!!

  lenny : haha but how did you find my blog address?! you’re the only lenny i’ve ever met besides my baby lenny :D

  gabby: HAHA he totally won that one. your story made me giggle so hard! are you both still going out? i wanna meet someone who renders me speechless too…

  amelia : wait wait i want to know your comic book method!!! that’s the most important part but you left it out :(

  calleigh : i’m trying to learn how to do that… not as easy as it sounds tho

  paperplanes : oh no it’s a long distance thing :( but i’m happy that you’re both working it out fine. i cant believe you two started because you’re both early birds… that is utterly adorable :)

  lingzie : do you remember ICQ? well i guess MSN works too… but when we were all in high school, couples used to get together because they got so close via MSN/ICQ. i always thought that was the best kind of foundation for a budding relationship :) glad you found yours. but he sure moves quick!!! third date and holding hands!

  michelle : it will come to you :)

  li shun : haha you’re one of those! watch out, you :P when it happens to you, it’s going to hit you 10000x times harder than it hits us normal people. but that sounds utterly delicious :)

  zeek : sto bene! (in italian wtf)

  nat : wait you can dive in singapore? what do you mean he thought you were real? as in an honest person?

  sheon : eh you told me this story before already…. :P this school musical one. haha! story repeater. but i still enjoyed reading it with the added context :)

  lone : will do! thank you :)

  jeeng : OMG SO ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED !!! sigh, your place was barcelona. that’s so awesome. :)

  jappuffy : wow what a catch. what a total catch!! not enough gentlemen these days. your guy sounds like a super sweetheart.

  crash : eh eh i also wrote letters via snail mail.. sometimes we’d put little trinkets inside like a batu seremban or a random toy haha. but WAH pen pals is like way beyond my time. sigh your story is so cute. makes me want to be a kid again.

  wenqi : not as cute as u !

  nyrac : nooooo stay away from the ones that look like your ex!!!!

  – oops gtg. reply later!!

• 72. ilovecoke  |  July 9th, 2009 at 12:29 am

  we met on a reality show. him the judge, me the participant. ethically wrong at that time, yes. emotionally, it was perfect. it’s a long story. we’ll prolly have loads to tell our kids. in short, i hated him, then i liked him, then on new year’s day after a 12 hour long conversation, i loved him.

• 73. lyn  |  July 9th, 2009 at 3:48 pm

  We met through an online message board. Became close friends, and decided after 2 years that, Hey, we should meet up! So I went to visit him, 350 miles away, and now our relationship transcends 2 countries.

• 74. LennyTheLion  |  July 9th, 2009 at 4:08 pm

  Hi pinkpau, glad to be the first human Lenny you met, and I sort of found your blog address from Kenny’s website.. sort of remembered it from Jason.sg who mentioned your blog being quaint. Nice blog.. very refreshing actually. Keep up the good work!

• 75. KK  |  July 9th, 2009 at 8:31 pm

  i got to know my bf when we’re back in Primary 4! he sat around me through those 3 years in Primary school and annoys the hell outta me. we moved to secondary school, we’re in the same school but different class..and we kept in touch.. remain as casual friends throughout those 5 years.. i move to kl for studies, we got closer..became each other’s bffs..things never got so close till early this year..we never fail to chat/text each other every day since then.. i flew home for my term break in May, we go out so frequently together.. emotionally attached yet the both of us still living in denial bout the fact.. things got worse the day i left to KL after a long long break. i missed him so much.. that weird feeling is definitely not the BFF kinda feeling that we all know off. he came over few days after..and we spent so much time together.. that was the time where we officially got together.

  i dated my bff.. whom i know of since i was 10 years old!! seems surreal when we started off, it was funny how we always quarreled back in primary school.. LOL. =))))

• 76. LJY  |  July 9th, 2009 at 8:32 pm

  This story is not about myself, but my best friend, E.

  Friend X is singaporean but living in malaysia. Last summer, I had an internship with a photographer in Singapore, and so Friend X offered to call up his Singaporean mates to entertain me while I was there. Clubbing and the sort, y’know. I said no, because I didn’t think it was appropriate to meet strangers by myself.

  2 months later, Photographer has an exhibition, and I make a road trip with 2 besties down to Singapore. I remember Friend X’s offer, and took it up this time. Now best friend E has a Singaporean number. So I spent the first day of arrival texting X’s Singaporean mate, J, using E’s number, about what we should do, where we should meet.

  J was rather nice sounding, and offered to take us clubbing, but we were all a tad reluctant, him being a stranger, so we spent most of the night debating whether to meet up or not.

  We eventually did, we didn’t want to be rude, and as we stood outside Zouk, J rang the number, and as it was E’s phone, she picked up, and spoke to him for the first time. He was standing right opposite her, and I hate to say this, but their eyes met, and they smiled at each other, hung up, introduced themselves and was extremely attracted to one another. (He initially thought she was me, because I had been the one using the phone the whole day, and X only mentioned me)

  Anyhow, they have since been dating for 7 months, even though the relationship is long distance, and he is now in Singaporean NS.

  Love is a pretty strong thing, no? Hard to find too, but found in the strangest places. :)

• 77. Nat  |  July 9th, 2009 at 11:09 pm

  LOL they actually met up in Singapore and flew to the islands in Msia for the diving :). Yea he thinks I’m a real person instead of some pretending fakers LOL

• 78. Jeeng  |  July 10th, 2009 at 1:02 am

  Lol, Su Ann, I don’t know yet; I like to think it’s a possibility (let’s hope the bf does not see this and run away) but we’ve quite a number of years yet lah. I apologise if what I wrote gave you a false impression since I’m about your age :p So there’s still university education to contend with, the transition to workplace, growing up *shrug*

• 79. gabby  |  July 10th, 2009 at 2:03 pm

  awww i’m sure somebody will make you speechless. i’m actually quite an argumentative person and i do mean that he makes me speechless cos he’s even better at debating than i am.. and also in the other sense :D we’re still together. we actually just went to new york together in march!

• 80. Captain Seamus  |  July 10th, 2009 at 2:49 pm

  Arrr matey I never get a response! Unlike you landlubbers we don’t have an Internet connection so we send Jack into the belly of the ocean to cut us a submarine cable!

• 81. pinkpau  |  July 10th, 2009 at 2:55 pm

  wait lahhhhh you think people no need to work issit T____T i’m going to get fired if i sit around replying comments at work :(

• 82. Voon  |  July 10th, 2009 at 9:16 pm

  YALA! reply faster! meow

• 83. Kara  |  July 10th, 2009 at 11:27 pm

  i met my bf in college. he was the most obnoxious thing on the face of the earth. but when he smiled, it was so beautiful i overlooked ething else. after a few years he finally told me he made out with a frenemy of mine a few days after dating me. a great sin nonetheless, it broke my heart and yet i still stayed. i dunno why but i did. it wasnt fair and i resent it everyday but i try. It’s love. It’s madness. How easy it is to lose your mind when you lose your heart :)

  glad to have just come across your blog. it’s just nice the way it is.

• 84. Shingo T  |  July 11th, 2009 at 9:07 am

  She came for attachment under me.
  Soon, she got attached. =p

  Ever since, they call me the intern-killer.

• 85. mas  |  July 11th, 2009 at 2:15 pm

  I met my current bf at zoo negara =P

  i was sent there as a practical student for my 2nd year of zoology. we had to be placed in various companies for our work experience. So for 2 months we shared duties of the zookeepers. He was one of the zookeepers there. You know la how these guys will relentlessly kacau any pretty young thing available, especially with the lack of female staff at the zoo. Everyday I came for work he’d annoy the hell out of me, asking for date la, let’s get married la etc etc. I just took it as playful banter and kept rejecting him openly without any mercy. I even said I had a bf who would beat him to a pulp, but he still continued on.

  one day we were working overtime and i hadn’t eaten dinner yet. he asked if I’d like to come along and eat with him. since we were basically co-workers already i just tagged along. Dunno why that night he suddenly looked very suave you know..

  after many more weeks of labour and fighting….. I started to develop feelings for him, even tho i tried very hard to deny it. i eventually got the courage to drop some hints that i might be interested in having a relationship.. he jumped in on the offer immediately. =D we’ve been together a year now.. it’s quite tough finding someone who thinks you look hot eventhough you’re covered head to toe in birdshit and smell like rotting bananas and dead fish.

• 86. piyi  |  July 13th, 2009 at 1:46 pm

  Jeeng i love ur story-how you found out you were in a relationship! so cute :) best wishes to the pair of you

• 87. michellesy  |  July 16th, 2009 at 11:08 pm

  I met my ex in an anatomy lab – nerdy much haha?

  So yeah, there we both were, dressed in white lab coats with the aroma of formaldehyde lingering in the air, scalpels and anatomy textbooks at the ready – which little did we know, both were soon to be covered/ splattered/ drenched in various bodily secretions you wouldn’t care to think about -_______-

  Not very romantic, but we got together over those bi-weekly sessions of poking around inside some cadaver’s insides (literally), mumbling things like ‘How the f*** did the tutor spot the pituitary gland in here? All I can see is a mass of white s*** that looks like cauliflower soup’, and him accidentally jabbing my finger with the pointy end of a scalpel whilst gesticulating with (what I thought was unecessary) gusto, necessitating an OHS report,a visit to the uni health centre for a vaccine jab, and a dressing-down from the lab supervisor T______T

  So yeah. Started great, and ended disastrously, but hey – can’t say I regret falling in love ffor real, for the first time ever.

  ps: I know I have been absent from your blog (and basically every other blog for the past YEAR wtf) – god it is good to be back!

• 88. C.  |  July 19th, 2009 at 6:36 pm

  My best friend first pointed him out to me.

  She said he was cute. I vehemently disagreed (:

  We only officially met at a camp where (bless their kind souls) we were made to compete in some water polo thing. He had nice shoulders and the most adorable smile. I think I fell for him right there when he tried to drown me in our one-sided struggle to get the ball (:

  I still miss him sometimes.

• 89. crissy  |  July 29th, 2009 at 8:44 pm

  su ann, it’s so awesome the way you reply everyone’s comments one by one.

  I met my boyfriend when we were at camp in Cameron Highlands. We were fourteen. He wrote me a love poem. Somewhere along the way, I fell in love with his persistence and now we’ve been together for a year. We turn 21 this year.

• 90. amira bee  |  August 11th, 2009 at 12:01 am

  Hey su ann we met at msls over mamak on sunday night!

  He was the new “hot” boy in school. We had breakfast together on the first day of term coz he was roommates with my bestfriend’s brother’s girlfriend’s younger brother (lol). Breakfast was awkward with him and I keeping quiet and our companions jabbering away. I thought he was good-looking but I was definitely NOT what I perceived to be his type – I wasn’t Chinese, Christian, or tall with long shiny black hair.

  We started having breakfast together everyday coz our closest friends were such good friends. At night (we stayed in a boarding college) he’d walk with me around school and ppl wld start teasing us (mainly him for “going after” a senior), but I always thought the interest was purely platonic – it just seemed too good to be true.

  But we started spending more and more time together and one day we went on a daytrip to Midvalley for a movie and sushi with mutual friends. On the way back to college the KTM was PACKED, I touched his shoulder to remind him that I was behind him, and he took my hand, at first I thought to “protect” me from anybody who had any funny ideas. 9 KTM stations and an empty train later, we were still holding hands and were sitting on the floor talking. Not long after, we were together and a few weeks later we both fell in love – me for the first time.

  We had an amazing relationship but we aren’t together anymore – simply because a non-Muslim person cannot marry a Muslim in this country without converting. I love him still and I always will, but life goes on and I will still support+fight for interracial AND interreligious relationships for years to come.

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